Here the subject becomes sexuality itself. This page is for adults.
When the creative energy builds in the body, most people do one of three things with it.
The first is to spend it
It is let go as soon as it builds, in sex, in fantasy, in pornography. The pleasure lasts seconds. The tiredness lasts longer.
The second is to fight it
It is pushed down, denied and treated as an enemy. This does not keep the energy. It poisons it. Pushed underground, it comes back twisted, as irritability, obsession or sudden collapse.
The third is shame
A person swings between giving in and condemning themselves. The swinging is a leak of its own.
There is a fourth way, and the old traditions point to it. It is neither spending nor fighting. It is raising. When the energy builds, you do not let it run downward and out. You hold it with awareness, gently, and invite it to rise along the spine toward the heart and the head.
The books call this transmutation. The alchemists called it turning lead into gold. The energy is not destroyed. It changes direction, and as it rises it changes nature: what was desire becomes warmth, clarity and steadiness.
This is not a feat of willpower. It is learned slowly, with the breath, with sound and with kindness toward your own body. The next four pages teach how.